You Can’t Lose With Love

 The Day I Told My Students "I Love You"

As teachers, we often talk about building relationships with our students. But what if we took that a step further? What if we started the year by telling our students we love them - before we even truly know them?

That's exactly what I decided to do this year. On the first day of class, I looked at my new students and said, "I want you all to know that I love you. I may not know you yet, but I love you and I'm here to support you."

The reaction was immediate and profound. I saw surprise on their faces, followed by smiles. A few even teared up. In that moment, I could feel the atmosphere in the classroom shift.

Over the following weeks, I noticed a remarkable change in student engagement and participation. My students seemed more willing to take risks, to ask questions, to share their ideas. They appeared more relaxed and open.

One student later told me, "When you said you loved us, I felt protected. Like it was okay to make mistakes because you'd still care about me."

This experience taught me the power of expressing unconditional positive regard for our students from day one. By creating an environment of emotional safety, we give students permission to be vulnerable, to try new things, and to fully engage in the learning process.

Of course, saying "I love you" isn't enough on its own. It needs to be backed up with consistent actions that demonstrate care, respect, and support. But as a starting point, it can set a powerful tone for the year ahead.

I encourage other educators to consider how they might express unconditional positive regard for their students from the very beginning. It doesn't have to be saying "I love you" - find the words and approach that feel authentic to you. The key is communicating to students that they are valued, supported, and believed in - no matter what.

Have you had similar experiences in your classroom? I'd love to hear your thoughts and strategies in the comments below.